Opinion

Why Books Make the Best Christmas Presents for Children

As Christmas approaches, parents, grandparents, and friends often search for the perfect gifts that bring joy, inspire creativity, and have lasting value. In a world full of flashy toys and electronic gadgets, it’s easy to overlook one of the simplest yet most rewarding gifts you can give a child: a book. Now, as an author, I may be a tad biased!! But here’s why I think books make the best Christmas presents for children, and why they’ll always be a timeless choice under the tree.

1. Encouraging a Lifelong Love of Reading

Giving a child a book can spark a love of reading that will last a lifetime. Books offer an immersive experience that nurtures the imagination, helps children develop empathy, and broadens their understanding of the world. And! By starting them on this journey when young, you’re planting the seeds for a habit that not only benefits their education, but also becomes a source of lifelong pleasure.

2. Books Are Educational, But Never Boring

While many gifts focus on entertainment, books strike the perfect balance between fun and learning. Whether it’s a fantastical adventure, a beautifully illustrated picture book (ahem, like mine!), or an educational story, children are learning new things without even realising it. From vocabulary building to learning problem-solving skills, books engage their brains in ways that screen-based gifts simply can’t.

3. They Encourage Family Bonding

The gift of a book can be an invitation to quality time. Reading together as a family, whether it’s a bedtime story or a shared reading adventure, creates moments of bonding that are irreplaceable. It’s a chance for parents and children to connect, unwind, and share the magic of storytelling. I was never a huge fan of bedtime story time, but Thea and I would often curl up on the sofa in the afternoons to read together.

4. Nurture the Imagination

Books are the ultimate playground for the mind. A great story encourages children to dream, to put themselves in others’ shoes, and to see the world from new perspectives. While toys may offer a few hours of entertainment, a book provides endless adventures and characters that linger in their imaginations long after the last page has been turned.

5. They Can Be Personalised

One of the unique aspects of books as gifts is the ability to tailor them to the child’s interests or even personalise them. Whether it’s a story about dinosaurs, fairies, space travel, or everyday adventures, there’s a book for every child. Some publishers even offer personalised books where the child becomes the hero, adding a special touch to their Christmas present.

6. A Break from Technology

In a world where children are increasingly surrounded by screens, giving a book provides a much-needed break from technology. It’s a chance for children to engage with a physical object, turn the pages themselves, and let their imagination take over without the overstimulation that often comes from digital devices. Often Thea and I come to agreements that she’ll read for 30 minutes then she can use a device for 30 minutes. It works for us!

7. A Gift That Lasts

While some toys or gadgets may break or lose their appeal after a few weeks, books are a gift that endures. A cherished book can be read over and over again, shared with siblings or friends, and even passed down through generations. For younger children, picture books become a comforting presence, while older kids can revisit their favourite stories as they grow.

8. Books Teach Important Life Lessons

Beyond the enjoyment, books often teach children valuable life lessons—about kindness, friendship, perseverance, and empathy. A well-chosen book can help a child navigate tricky situations in life or reinforce positive behaviour in a way that’s meaningful to them. Again, although a tad biased, if you’re looking for books that teach children about equality, diversity, inclusion or acceptance, I can highly recommend my books!

9. Inspiring Creativity

Reading isn’t a passive activity; it requires a child to actively engage their mind. When children read, they visualise characters and settings, hear the voices of the story’s characters in their heads, and imagine the twists and turns of the plot. This kind of creative engagement is crucial for a child’s cognitive and emotional development.

10. A Sustainable, Thoughtful Gift

Finally, in a season often filled with excess, books make for a thoughtful, sustainable gift. They don’t rely on batteries or contribute to clutter. And if you’re looking for an eco-friendly Christmas, choosing books over plastic toys can be a step in the right direction.

And so…

Books are more than just presents; they are little windows into other worlds, keys to knowledge, and friends for life. This Christmas, consider popping a few titles under the tree for the children in your life. Particularly given that my books are currently on sale in the run up to Black Friday! You’re not only giving your tiny humans something to unwrap on Christmas morning—you’re giving them the gift of imagination, learning, and countless hours of joy.

Which one will put under the Christmas tree this year?

Equality Issues · Opinion

The Effects of Toxic Masculinity on Women

Sometimes, people ask me why I wrote How Frank Helped Hank.

And the simple answer was I learned about toxic masculinity and the negative effect is has on boys and men.

But in researching the subject, I also learned about the negative effect it has on women.

Toxic masculinity doesn’t just harm men—its impact on women is equally damaging. When boys are told not to “act like girls” by showing their emotions, or engaging in certain activities (for example boy who love to dance, or play with dolls), the underlying message for girls is that being feminine is lesser.

These subtle reinforcements and they are of course subtle – generally in life we are shaped by many many micro moments – shape how girls view themselves from a young age. Often for young girls, internalising the idea that femininity is weak or undesirable, can lead to feelings of inadequacy, pushing pushing to question their worth, especially in male-dominated spaces. This continues throughout the teenage years and into womanhood, until we almost believe it ourselves that we are less than.

And as girls grow into women, the effects become more pronounced.

Women may avoid leadership roles or downplay their achievements in fear of being seen as overly aggressive or unfeminine. Relationships, too, are affected, as women may feel their emotional needs are devalued or dismissed, leading to an unhealthy imbalance where they aren’t taken seriously. The ripple effect of toxic masculinity impacts gender dynamics at every level, making it harder for men and women to relate as equals.

Both genders suffer, but often people assume that toxic masculinity only affects men.

But the impact on women is equally damaging and the cost is often in their emotional well-being and self-worth.

I wrote How Frank Helped Hank thinking it would be a book for little boys, but realised just like my other books, it’s a book for all children, regardless of their gender.

I’d love to know your thoughts.

Suze

Opinion

Mattel made a Queen Camilla Barbie & the comments section has gone wild!

Scrolling through Instagram this morning and a post from @Barbie dropped into my feed. It was announcing a one-of-a-kind doll in recognition of The Queen Consort’s leadership of @wowglobal. Women of the World is a global movement of festivals celebrating women, girls & non-binary people. Their aim is to change the way society sees girls and offers opportunities for their future. And Camilla has been the president of WOW since 2015.

Now. I’m not particularly a royalist, nor a major fan of Camilla, but it was the comments section that got me thinking. Here’s a little taster of the first handful:

“Yes let’s teach our daughters about infidelity and scandal”

“A mistress barbie. Didn’t know this is a thing that inspires.”

“You can be ANYTHING! Including a married man’s mistress!”

Are you seeing a pattern here?

What does the word ‘mistress’ mean?

I googled the word ‘mistress’: 1. a woman in a position of authority or control.”she is always mistress of the situation, coolly self-possessed” 2. a woman (other than the man’s wife) having a sexual relationship with a married man.”Elsie knew her husband had a mistress tucked away somewhere.”

Then I googled, is there a male equivalent of the word ‘mistress’, and there isn’t.

Some websites offered the word ‘paramour’ but it’s a gender neutral word and it doesn’t carry the same historical and societal connotations as mistress; it’s not seen as pejorative.

Labelling Camilla as a mistress, puts the blame squarely on her shoulders. It’s what the word does, it blames the woman for the actions of a man. And frankly, I’m getting rather tired of women being held responsible for the way men act.

Will boys be boys?

For far too long the phrase ‘boys will be boys’ has excused the poor behaviour of boys; bullying, teasing, fighting… It’s often met with shrug and a wry smile, but it allows boys to grow into men who believe they have no control over their actions. That behaving badly is just how they behave. In the playground it’s used when a boy pulls a girl’s ponytail, in the locker room is used for much worse….

It’s part of the reason why I’m writing my next children’s book and putting the message of consent front and centre. I hadn’t thought about including the term ‘boys will be boys’ but I’m obviously thinking that I should be… I’m still writing book 4, but if you want to read something to your boys (to all children!) about not hiding their feelings and not ‘manning up’ I’d definitely recommend my last book, How Frank Helped Hank.

Should Barbie have made a doll of Camilla? I don’t know, I don’t really care! But should we still be labelling ‘the other woman’, ‘the home wrecker’, or ‘the mistress’ while casually dismissing the actions of men..? No. No we shouldn’t. I’d love to know what you think.

Events · Opinion · Teachers

Dress up as The Queen Engineer on World Book Day 2024

If you’re like most parents, and you have just thought: how can there be only 48 hours until World Book Day 2024 and what on earth are they going to dress up as?!?

Fear not! I’ve got you! The Queen Engineer is here!

Take a look at Princess Flo, she’s a maths and science loving princess, who doesn’t want to be the queen when she grows up. She wants to be a great engineer!

Flo’s outfit is pretty easy to replicate, especially if you have either an old Elsa dress-up or a Cinderella outfit in the back of the kids’ wardrobe! Because really, it’s just a long blue dress and a pair of red wellies!

You could add a construction hat if you have one of those in the dress up box too. Chances are you’ll have a yellow one, and Flo’s is white; but we won’t tell anyone!

And if you also have a cape, and a sceptre, well Bob’s your auntie’s live in lover!

World Book Day doesn’t have to mean spending a fortune on a costume.

Any blue dress would work just as well, like this:

I haven’t put any links on there – this isn’t any kind of sponsored post! I just did a quick google and found a couple of of reasonably priced dresses. But you might even have something suitable in the kids’ wardrobe already. There might even be a long sleeved T Shirt of your own that would double as a dress!

As an author I LOVE World Book Day. As a parent, it’s more a case of GAH!!! Helping our tiny humans with a World Book Day outfit can feel stressful; but it doesn’t have to be!

I really hope these suggestions have helped and as always, I would LOVE to see your pictures! Don’t forget to tag me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theachopsbooks/ or email me your photos to suze@theachopsbooks.com

Happy World Book Day everyone! Have a good one. And keep reading!

Events · Teachers

World Book Day: Meet the Author

Ahead of World Book Day on 7th March, and a week when as an author, my favourite thing to do is to go into schools and read to children, I thought you might like to know a little more about this author!

Tell us about your writing career to date.  

I began writing in a blog when my daughter was little, as a way to get my thoughts about parenting out of my head – because as wonderful as parenting is, it can be tough right?! And it kind of progressed from there.

I’d written about the old fashioned nature of some classical fairy tales, and the out of date messages they send our children, and I had a go at rewriting one: I turned Cinderella into Ella and the iPhone, and at the end, when she’s reunited with her lost phone as the thumb print fits, she tells the prince that she just wants to be friends as she’s off to uni.

After that I began playing around with a few ideas, and Thea Chops Books was born.

What made equality & inclusivity so important to you? 

Because it’s really important for all of us: all human beings deserve to be treated equally, fairly, and with respect. Once I started to see injustices in the world, I couldn’t unsee them. I knew I wanted to do something that would help create change.

How do you incorporate these themes into your books? 

Hopefully with some humour! Mostly by choosing something, for example, the idea that what girls and boys like is determined by their gender, and challenging the ideas, in rhyme.

So, in my first book, ‘She’s Not Good for a Girl, She’s Just Good!’, the character of Frank tells Florence that girls are rubbish at sport, because that’s what his dad says. Florence challenges him and together they learn that you can be good at, and enjoy something, regardless of being a boy or a girl. Florence is good at some things, and Frank is good at others.

How can families introduce these themes into their children’s book collections? 

Well, buying our books would be a great start! But also, a quick google of say, ‘kids’ books about equality’ will bring up a whole list of fabulous options.

Parents might think these themes are too mature for children – what’s your response to that? 

Only if talked about in a non-age-appropriate way. How we discuss anything with a 2-year-old, is different to how we talk to an 8-year-old, or a 15-year-old. And kids are very literal, and accepting, so actually these conversations tend to be easier than we think.

When our old babysitter got married to her wife, my daughter commented that she looked like a princess in her dress. Then she asked me why her prince has long hair; and when I said she’s marrying another princess, because sometimes two women fall in love and choose to get married, my daughter, aged 2 1/2 replied, ‘okay’ and carried on watching the wedding. It was that simple a conversation.

Children are curious and bound to ask questions, how do you suggest parents and care givers respond? Do you have any good anecdotes? 

When I first talked to my daughter about periods, the minute I used the word ‘egg’ she said, “Like a chicken?! Am I a chicken?!” it made us both laugh out loud. Even though through the laughter I managed to say, you’re not a chicken, we then clucked at each other for a bit, and I got the sense she wasn’t quite ready for the conversation.

The best way to respond, though, is honesty. And to keep it simple. Also pause after you’ve said something; don’t feel like you have to go into huge detail and explain it all in one go. If in the pause your child has another question, answer that one, but you might find that first response was enough, and they move onto something else.

But this is another reason why seeking out books is a great way to start these conversations. Other people have written about this for us! Reading with our children will either spark some questions, or provide a moment for you to ask, what did you think about that?

Favourite author writing in the same genre as you.

I love everything that Andrea Beaty does. I met her once at a reading in a local bookshop and totally fangirl-ed her!

So that’s a little about me – an author who would love to come to your primary school and read! If you’re a parent and you’re reading this please email your child’s school and ask them to get in touch with me at suze@theachopsbooks.com If you’re a teacher, and you’re still looking for an author for World Book Day 2024 or any other week of the year, please also drop me a line!

This interview was first published on the East Green Childcare Services website ahead of World Book Day in March 2023.

Opinion · Teachers

The Crucial Role of Childhood Reading: A Gateway to Academic & Emotional Success

Hello there fellow parents, key stage 1 primary school teachers and bookworms!

Let’s talk about the impact reading has on both the intellectual, and emotional development of our tiny humans.

We know that there are huge benefits to encouraging a love of reading from an early age; reading lays the foundations for a future of academic success and emotional intelligence. Here are a few ways our little ones benefit from it:

📚 The Dance of the Synapses:

We see: a child engrossed in a colourful storybook, eyes wide, faces smiling. Behind the scenes: their brain is performing a dazzling dance of synapses. According to scientists, children who read books have amazing neural pathways because reading sparks connections, setting the stage for a lifetime of learning.

🎓 School Prep:

We know that children who develop a love for reading early on have the ability to breeze through school with confidence. Reading for pleasure is like a secret weapon, it equips our tiny humans with vocabulary skills that can help to make their school journey a smooth one. Studies show that kids who cozy up with books often outperform their non-reading pals in various subjects.

🌈 The Colours of Empathy:

In early education, teachers believe in nurturing not just intellect but also hearts: reading stories about characters from different walks of life allows our kids to think about families and situations different to theirs… This encourages empathy, which helps to make our little learners compassionate leaders of tomorrow.

📈 You like stats:

According to the wizards of research, children who read for pleasure every day perform better in their academic tests. Reading is like a growth spell for their minds, boosting vocabulary, comprehension, and even mathematical skills. So, if you want your child to soar academically, just hand them a book!

🚀 A Launchpad to Lifelong Learning:

Reading ignites curiosity, fuels imagination, and turns each child into a fearless explorer of knowledge. It’s not just about letters on a page; it’s about ideas, dreams, and the infinite possibilities that unfold with every turn.

In short, reading is a wonderful magical gift! One that we should all encourage more of! And as I type that, I don’t just means, read more of may books… Other books are available! 😉 But obvs, you should definitely get my books for your tiny humans to read!! Don’t forget to let me know what they think about them!

You’ll find them here.

Events · Teachers

How to Book an Author Reading for Primary Schools

Are you sitting comfortably?

Listening ears on?

Let me tell you about book readings. As a children’s author they are SO important. They allow me to actually talk to the tiny humans for whom I write.

And for the children, research (from the Society of Authors) has shown that 99.4% of schools who host an author visit said it was an invaluable experience that encouraged reading for pleasure, wider reading and creative writing.

So as a primary school teacher, how can you you book me for a school reading?

Very simply, please email me or fill in the contact form here

But if you’re wondering about how it all works, here’s a bit more info for you:

What will it cost?

For the majority of London postcodes the fee for a 2 hour visit (which allows for up to 3 readings, each lasting 30-40 minutes) is £175.

For schools which are further than 1 hour travel time from SE22, additional fees will apply.

Which school years would enjoy your books?

Reception and years 1 and 2 will enjoy all 3 rhyming story books.

Years 3 and 4 also, who will will enjoy discussions about equality and wellbeing. 

What are the books about?

The Queen Engineer has a strong STEM element, and a female lead character, which works well with science (e.g. engineering, problem solving), design and technology (e.g. discussing how levers and forces work), as well as PSHE discussions about for example, resilience and perseverance, or knowing right from wrong. 

How Frank Helped Hank can facilitate discussions about feelings during transition periods, or anxiety around benchmarking or SATs times, or for the All About Me topic.  It strongly promotes the importance of talking, for mental wellbeing during Children’s Mental Health Week and Mental Health Awareness Week. 

She’s Not Good for a Girl, She’s Just Good! supports personal development along with acceptance of one another’s talents and skills. It’s great for June and July  to discuss feelings around competition or the pressure associated with Sports Day. 

So calling all key stage 1 and 2 teachers, and nursery teachers, and well all primary school teachers! If you’d like to book in for an author reading of any of our current books, please do get in touch.

Suzanne Hemming children's author at a school book reading

“We can’t wait to have Suzanne back to read us her next book!”

The Gower School, London

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Events

The Boy Who Baked Cakes

Today, October 6th, is National Poetry Day. So I’m celebrating by posting a never seen before rhyme that I wrote way back, when I was just starting out on my writing journey. When I knew that I wanted to tackle the issues of inequality facing our children. Could I make a difference writing stories that taught kids they could do and be anything?

This one didn’t make it to a rewrite into an actual story book. I received some feedback on if, that it might be a little outdated; that television shows like The Great British Bakeoff had shown boys and men it was cool to be bakers. So I rather lost my nerve and didn’t pursue this one…

It’s been sat in a Dropbox folder for 6 years! But I think the message is still relevant. There will still be many young boys who are told they can’t do something because it’s traditionally seen as ‘for girls’. I hear it in toy shops, still to this day: put that back it’s for girls. So it felt like it was worth dragging it out the Dropbox, and sharing with you all today. Let me know what you think of The Boy Who Baked Cakes in the comments below.

The Boy Who Baked Cakes

There once was a boy, who was lacking in joy,

as he did not know what to do.

See though he liked planes and riding on trains,

he rather liked baking cakes too.

There was naught he loved more, in fact he adored,

creating a scrumptious sweet. 

He could spend half an hour, just sifting the flour,

to create the perfect treat.

Now there’s someone at school, a bit of a fool,

Who said, “boys shouldn’t be baking!”

“Why not?” the boy cried, “shouldn’t I bake with pride?

It’s an art form, make no mistaking!”

Then that someone from school, urgh what a fool,

simply just wouldn’t back down.

To the sports pitch he ran, oh what was his plan?

He was jumping around like a clown.

“Listen to me!” the fool cried with glee,

“There’s a chap here who says he can bake.

He says he likes planes, and riding on trains,

But baking? That’s a mistake!”

The boy hung his head, his face turned bright red,

the fool was being quite cruel.

What was so wrong? He’d thought all life long,

that baking cakes was quite cool.

The boy turned to leave, feeling aggrieved,

but was suddenly stopped in his tracks,

when cried out a girl, with a head full of curls,

“Ignore him and just face the facts!”

“So you like to bake, that’s not a mistake,

it’s something that makes your heart sing.

I spoke to my mum, ‘bout what to become,

She said ‘you can do anything!’

What makes you smile, just think for a while,

if this is what you enjoy:

you bake with great ease; you should do as you please,

so what if you are a boy?”

The boy stopped and smiled, and he thought for a while,

the girl with the curls was quite wise.

Yes he liked planes, and riding on trains,

but he also loved baking sweet pies.

And so he would bake, and make no mistake,

he would do it with joy and with pride.

And what will you do? What job’s right for you?

Well that’s just for you to decide!

Opinion

Why I agree with Keira Knightley about Disney Movies.

Today I read that Keira Knightley has banned her 3 year old daughter from watching certain Disney films.  And I have to agree with her.

Before I had my daughter, now 5 1/2, I didn’t really give much thought to the messages within a Disney movie, or a fairytale story book.  I’d been raised on them, most of us had been raised on them, and I like to think that many of us had turned out ok (which is a phrase that the ‘whatabouters’ like to throw around: didn’t have this political correctness malarkey in my day and I turned out ok.  The ‘whatabouters’ being those people who say things like, “International Women’s Day?  What about International Men’s Day?”).  But I felt life had turned out pretty well: I could vote, I could work, my choices were mine, I lived a good life.

Then in 2013 I gave birth my daughter, and started to think about the world she’d been born into, and wondered what life would be like for her. I’ve said before that it felt like my eyes opened for the first time as it struck me just how unequal everything still was (is!);  how society favoured men above women, and the word of men over a woman’s; how much a woman’s value was still measured by her looks, her ability to be deemed attractive, ladylike, and how rife and engrained everyday sexism really was.  And once my eyes finally had opened, I couldn’t help but see the 1000s of messages that are fed to us, men and women, and our children every day, telling us we’re not really equal, that our gender will most likely determine our role in life.

I realised that though I can tell and show my daughter that she’s strong and capable of anything she sets her mind to, and worthy of her space in the world, I became aware of the many messages telling her otherwise.  And the source of some of those many messages? Fairy tales, story books and classic princess movies. And just like Keira Knightley, it struck me that Cinderella waits to be rescued, and that the prince, who claims to have fallen in love, doesn’t even recognise her when she’s in daywear.  That Ariel gives up her voice, and her family, everything about her whole world in fact, for a man who doesn’t know who she is (and who then almost marries a sea witch).  That the prince kisses Sleeping Beauty while she’s asleep, a non consensual kiss, yet she wakes up and marries him.  And Aurora, having been happily singing to herself in the woods, pulls away from Prince Phillip not once but four times, but still he pursues her, and eventually does get the girl. 

I have said before that I think there’s nothing wrong with a princess dress, the colour pink, playing with dolls etc and I stand by that.  I don’t want to flat out ban my daughter from playing something, or watching something (unless we feel it’s not age appropriate).  So in that sense Keira and I have taken a slightly different approach as is our choice as parents. And so we do still watch these films from time to time, but we talk about them as we watch.  I see them as a conversation starter, to allow children to start to think for themselves about what is right and wrong.

Because kids tend to watch these films over and over again throughout childhood, so the hidden messages have plenty of time to drip drip drip into young malleable brains and help form a child’s view of the world and their place in it.  

In 2015 I decided to start rewriting the stories.  I began with Cinderella: in my version (Ella and the iPhone) the heroine leaves her phone behind at a party, and the popular guy has to find the thumb that unlocks it, whereupon Ella turns down his proposal in favour of being friends and going to uni. I loved re-working this classic tale of girl sits and waits to be rescued by boy, and thus began a new career: writing rhyming children’s books that have messages of equality, acceptance of oneself and each other, and which will hopefully inspire young minds (male and female) that their gender does not determine their role in life, and they really are each others equal. 

Let’s hope our children, and our children’s children will not have to ride a 5th wave of feminism, and will learn about those passive princesses only in history books.

Company News · Events

Raising Humans Over Supper – Event

In December 2017 we hosted a panel event called Raising Humans.  We talked to two guest speakers (from Let Toys Be Toys and These Two Dudes) about why they believe gender equality is important for our children and why it starts when kids are young.  It was a really great morning of fascinating information and interesting discussion.

So we decided to do it again!

On Tuesday 5th June we’re holding Raising Humans Over Supper, an opportunity to hear and discuss equality in childhood with Olivia Dickinson from Let Toys be Toys and Alex Mees from These Two Dudes, while enjoying the wonderful home cooked food from Salvation Suppers Chef, Susan Foynes.  It will take place at Space @ 61 in SE15, and start at 7:30pm.  So it’s an opportunity to leave the kids at home, forget about your day and feed both your brain and stomach all while meeting some wonderful people.

The format for the event is:

19:30 welcome drinks and canapés

20:15 sit down and a brief intro to the night

20:30 our delicious main course will served

21:30 pudding and panel discussion, followed by mint tea and questions

23:00 carriages / uber / shank’s pony / the number 343 to Peckham Rye station

We’d love to have you join us for what we know will be a wonderfully delicious and interesting evening.  All you have to do is BYOB, and click on the image below to buy your ticket!  Seats are limited so do grab one before they all go!

See you there!

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